When the police break your teammate’s leg, you’d think it would wake you up a little.
When they arrest him on a New York
street, throw him in jail for the night, and leave him with a
season-ending injury, you’d think it would sink in. You’d think you’d
know there was more to the story.
You’d think.
But nope.
I still remember my reaction when I
first heard what happened to Thabo. It was 2015, late in the season.
Thabo and I were teammates on the Hawks, and we’d flown into New York
late after a game in Atlanta. When I woke up the next morning, our team
group text was going nuts. Details were still hazy, but guys were
saying, Thabo hurt his leg? During an arrest? Wait — he spent the night in jail?! Everyone was pretty upset and confused.
Well, almost everyone. My response was….. different. I’m embarrassed to admit it.
Which is why I want to share it today.
Before I tell the rest of this story,
let me just say real quick — Thabo wasn’t some random teammate of mine,
or some guy in the league who I knew a little bit. We’d become
legitimate friends that year in our downtime. He was my go-to teammate
to talk with about stuff beyond the basketball world. Politics,
religion, culture, you name it — Thabo brought a perspective that wasn’t
typical of an NBA player. And it’s easy to see why: Before we were
teammates in Atlanta, the guy had played professional ball in France,
Turkey and Italy. He spoke three languages! Thabo’s mother was from
Switzerland, and his father was from South Africa. They lived together
in South Africa before Thabo was born, then left because of apartheid.
It didn’t take long for me to figure
out that Thabo was one of the most interesting people I’d ever been
around. We respected each other. We were cool, you know? We had each
other’s backs.
Anyway — on the morning I found out
that Thabo had been arrested, want to know what my first thought was?
About my friend and teammate? My first thought was: What was Thabo doing out at a club on a back-to-back??
Yeah. Not, How’s he doing? Not, What happened during the arrest?? Not, Something seems off with this story. Nothing like that. Before I knew the full story, and before I’d even had the chance to talk to Thabo….. I sort of blamed Thabo.
I thought, Well,
if I’d been in Thabo’s shoes, out at a club late at night, the police
wouldn’t have arrested me. Not unless I was doing something wrong.
Cringe.
It’s not like it was a conscious thought. It was pure reflex — the first thing to pop into my head.
And I was worried about him, no doubt.
But still. Cringe.
A few months later, a jury found
Thabo not guilty on all charges. He settled with the city over the
NYPD’s use of force against him. And then the story just sort of…..
disappeared. It fell away from the news. Thabo had surgery and went
through rehab. Pretty soon, another NBA season began — and we were back
on the court again.
Life went on.
But I still couldn’t shake my discomfort.
I mean, I hadn’t been involved in the incident. I hadn’t even been there. So why did I feel like I’d let my friend down?
Why did I feel like I’d let myself down?
A few weeks ago, something happened at a Jazz home game that brought back many of those old questions.
Maybe you saw it: We were playing
against the Thunder, and Russell Westbrook and a fan in the crowd
exchanged words during the game. I didn’t actually see or hear what
happened, and if you were following on TV or on Twitter, maybe you had a
similar initial viewing of it. Then, after the game, one of our
reporters asked me for my response to what had gone down between Russ
and the fan. I told him I hadn’t seen it — and added something like, But you know Russ. He gets into it with the crowd a lot.
Of course, the full story came out
later that night. What actually happened was that a fan had said some
really ugly things at close range to Russ. Russ had then responded.
After the game, he’d said he felt the comments were racially charged.
The incident struck a nerve with our team.
In a closed-door meeting with the
president of the Jazz the next day, my teammates shared stories of
similar experiences they’d had — of feeling degraded in ways that went
beyond acceptable heckling. One teammate talked about how his mom had
called him right after the game, concerned for his safety in SLC. One
teammate said the night felt like being “in a zoo.” One of the guys in
the meeting was Thabo — he’s my teammate in Utah now. I looked over at
him, and remembered his night in NYC.
Everyone was upset. I was upset — and
embarrassed, too. But there was another emotion in the room that day,
one that was harder to put a finger on. It was almost like…..
disappointment, mixed with exhaustion. Guys were just sick and tired of it all.
This wasn’t the first time they’d
taken part in conversations about race in their NBA careers, and it
wasn’t the first time they’d had to address the hateful actions of
others. And one big thing that got brought up a lot in the meeting was
how incidents like this — they weren’t only about the people directly
involved. This wasn’t only about Russ and some heckler. It was about
more than that.
It was about what it means just to exist right now — as a person of color in a mostly white space.
It was about racism in America.
Before the meeting ended, I joined
the team’s demand for a swift response and a promise from the Jazz
organization that it would address the concerns we had. I think my
teammates and I all felt it was a step in the right direction.
But I don’t think anyone felt satisfied.
There’s an elephant in the room that
I’ve been thinking about a lot over these last few weeks. It’s the fact
that, demographically, if we’re being honest: I have more in common with
the fans in the crowd at your average NBA game than I have with the
players on the court.
And after the events in Salt Lake
City last month, and as we’ve been discussing them since, I’ve really
started to recognize the role those demographics play in my privilege.
It’s like — I may be Thabo’s friend, or Ekpe’s teammate, or Russ’s
colleague; I may work with those guys. And I absolutely 100% stand with them.
But I look like the other guy.
And whether I like it or not? I’m beginning to understand how that means something.
What I’m realizing is, no matter how
passionately I commit to being an ally, and no matter how unwavering my
support is for NBA and WNBA players of color….. I’m still in this
conversation from the privileged perspective of opting in to it. Which of course means that on the flip side, I could just as easily opt out of it. Every day, I’m given that choice — I’m granted that privilege — based on the color of my skin.
In other words, I can say every right
thing in the world: I can voice my solidarity with Russ after what
happened in Utah. I can evolve my position on what happened to Thabo in
New York. I can be that weird dude in Get Out bragging about how he’d have voted for Obama a third term. I can condemn every racist heckler I’ve ever known.
But I can also fade into the crowd, and my face can blend in with the faces of those hecklers, any time I want.
I realize that now. And maybe in
years past, just realizing something would’ve felt like progress. But
it’s NOT years past — it’s today. And I know I have to do better. So I’m
trying to push myself further.
I’m trying to ask myself what I should actually do.
How can I — as a white man, part of this systemic problem — become part of the solution when it comes to racism in my workplace? In my community? In this country?
These are the questions that I’ve been asking myself lately.
And I don’t think I have all the answers yet — but here are the ones that are starting to ring the most true:
I have to continue to educate myself on the history of racism in America.
I have to listen. I’ll say it again, because it’s that important. I have to listen.
I have to support leaders who see
racial justice as fundamental — as something that’s at the heart of
nearly every major issue in our country today. And I have to support
policies that do the same.
I have to do my best to recognize
when to get out of the way — in order to amplify the voices of
marginalized groups that so often get lost.
But maybe more than anything?
I know that, as a white man, I have to hold my fellow white men accountable.
We all have to hold each other accountable.
And we all have to be
accountable — period. Not just for our own actions, but also for the
ways that our inaction can create a “safe” space for toxic behavior.
And I think the standard that we have
to hold ourselves to, in this crucial moment….. it’s higher than it’s
ever been. We have to be active. We have to be actively supporting the causes of those who’ve been marginalized — precisely because they’ve been marginalized.
Two concepts that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately are guilt and responsibility.
When it comes to racism in America, I
think that guilt and responsibility tend to be seen as more or less the
same thing. But I’m beginning to understand how there’s a real
difference.
As white people, are we guilty of the sins of our forefathers? No, I don’t think so.
But are we responsible for them? Yes, I believe we are.
And I guess I’ve come to realize that
when we talk about solutions to systemic racism — police reform,
workplace diversity, affirmative action, better access to healthcare,
even reparations? It’s not about guilt. It’s not about pointing fingers,
or passing blame.
It’s
about responsibility. It’s about understanding that when we’ve said the
word “equality,” for generations, what we’ve really meant is equality for a certain group of people. It’s about understanding that when we’ve said the word “inequality,” for generations, what we’ve really meant is slavery,
and its aftermath — which is still being felt to this day. It’s about
understanding on a fundamental level that black people and white people,
they still have it different in America. And that those differences
come from an ugly history….. not some random divide.
And it’s about understanding that
Black Lives Matter, and movements like it, matter, because — well, let’s
face it: I probably would’ve been safe on the street that one night in
New York. And Thabo wasn’t. And I was safe on the court that one night in Utah. And Russell wasn’t.
But as disgraceful as it is that we have to deal with racist hecklers in NBA arenas in 2019? The truth is, you could argue that that kind of racism is “easier” to deal with.
Because at least in those cases, the
racism is loud and clear. There’s no ambiguity — not in the act itself,
and thankfully not in the response: we throw the guy out of the
building, and then we ban him for life.
But in many ways the more dangerous
form of racism isn’t that loud and stupid kind. It isn’t the kind that
announces itself when it walks into the arena. It’s the quiet and subtle
kind. The kind that almost hides itself in plain view. It’s the person
who does and says all the “right” things in public: They’re perfectly
friendly when they meet a person of color. They’re very polite. But in
private? Well….. they sort of wish that everyone would stop making
everything “about race” all the time.
It’s the kind of racism that can seem almost invisible — which is one of the main reasons why it’s allowed to persist.
And so, again, banning a guy like
Russ’s heckler? To me, that’s the “easy” part. But if we’re really going
to make a difference as a league, as a community, and as a country on
this issue….. it’s like I said — I just think we need to push ourselves
another step further.
First, by identifying that less visible, less obvious behavior as what it is: racism.
And then second, by denouncing that racism — actively, and at every level.
That’s the bare minimum of where we
have to get to, I think, if we’re going to consider the NBA — or any
workplace — as anything close to part of the solution in 2019.
I’ll wrap this up in a minute — but first I have one last thought.
The NBA is over 75% players of color.
Seventy-five percent.
People of color, they built this league. They’ve grown
this league. People of color have made this league into what it is
today. And I guess I just wanted to say that if you can’t find it in
your heart to support them — now? And I mean actively support them?
If the best that you can do for their
cause is to passively “tolerate” it? If that’s the standard we’re going
to hold ourselves to — to blend in, and opt out?
Well, that’s not good enough. It’s not even close.
I know I’m in a strange position, as
one of the more recognized white players in the NBA. It’s a position
that comes with a lot of….. interesting undertones. And it’s a position
that makes me a symbol for a lot of things, for a lot of people — often
people who don’t know anything about me. Usually, I just ignore them.
But this doesn’t feel like a “usually” moment.
This feels like a moment to draw a line in the sand.
I believe that what’s happening to people of color in this country — right now, in 2019 — is wrong.
The fact that black Americans are more than five times as likely to be incarcerated as white Americans is wrong. The fact that black Americans are more than twice as likely to live in poverty as white Americans is wrong. The fact that black unemployment rates nationally are double that of overall unemployment rates is wrong.
The fact that black imprisonment rates for drug charges are almost six
times higher nationally than white imprisonment rates for drug charges is wrong. The fact that black Americans own approximately one-tenth of the wealth that white Americans own is wrong.
The fact that inequality is built so deeply into so many of our most trusted institutions is wrong.
And I believe it’s the responsibility of anyone on the privileged end of those inequalities to help make things right.
So if you don’t want to know anything
about me, outside of basketball, then listen — I get it. But if you do
want to know something? Know I believe that.
Know that about me.
If you’re wearing my jersey at a
game? Know that about me. If you’re planning to buy my jersey for
someone else…… know that about me. If you’re following me on social
media….. know that about me. If you’re coming to Jazz games and rooting
for me….. know that about me.
And if you’re claiming my name, or
likeness, for your own cause, in any way….. know that about me. Know
that I believe this matters.
Thanks for reading.
Time for me to shut up and listen.
